The Curse of Patriarchy
Recently, I started a group through the Bridge Christian Church, where I co-pastor not support pastor, but labor, build, struggle, birth, and create to live alongside each other trying to figure out what the hell it means to be the body of Christ.
This group is not exclusively for the Bridge, it’s for anyone that identifies as a women, thus enduring what all women endure, in the church and in our culture. How that has and is affecting us as women, mothers, daughters, sisters, wives and singles? We also explore how this has and is effecting men, fathers, sons, brothers, husbands and singles? You may be thinking; Why should I care? I’ve gotten what I want, I’m a pastor, I get to work where very few women in our society will ever be allowed to work. I care because I want more for my daughter and my son than complementarianism and second best. I want them to someday step from the relative safety of our home and know that they both can do whatever they want! That my son is better and more than the “eventual head of some household”, where he will have to make ALL THE DECISIONS ALONE and be pandered to.
Martha Peace advises, “The godly wife must also suppress selfish desires (for romance, a career, an equitable marriage), practice addressing her spouse in soothing tones” (http://www.motherjones.com/media/2009/03/books-purpose-driven-wife)
I want him to know that he has the right to a partnership where the equality is shared, not hoarded, he is not a child that needs to be spoken to in soothing tones. That he can be a compassionate, emotional, empathizing male. And that does not make him less.
That my daughter is equal to any man and any man who asks her to be less than she is, is not a man. That there is more for her life than silence and submission (and in fact submission isn’t what the church has made it out to be).
Now before faith came, we were imprisoned and guarded under the law until faith would be revealed. Therefore the law was our disciplinarian until Christ came, so that we might be justified by faith. But now that faith has come, we are no longer subject to a disciplinarian, for in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith. As many of you as were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is no longer Jew or Greek, there is no longer slave or free, there is no longer male and female; for all of you are one in Christ Jesus. And if you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s offspring, heirs according to the promise. (Galatians 3: 23-29)
We are our world’s best hope, living out a transformed life! Not being silent when we see injustice. Owning our part and being part of the solution.